Your Judgment Is Not About Them. It’s a Self-Portrait of Your Own Flaws.

You see someone make a mistake, hear a stupid opinion, or watch someone handle a crisis badly. The conclusion is instant, absolute, and satisfying: “They’re an idiot.” “They’re selfish.” “They are clearly wrong.”

In that single, sharp moment of criticism, you think you’ve uncovered their inadequacy. But Pietro Ubaldi delivers the brutal truth: You have just submitted to the ultimate judgment—your own.

When you judge others, you are not uncovering them; you are revealing a complete, unedited portrait of you.

The Psychological Mirror

The mechanism is simple, but deadly to your ego. It operates on two laws:

Law 1: The Ignorance-to-Absolutism Scale

The less you know, the faster you judge.

Those who are ignorant possess few "elements" (knowledge, context, experience) with which to form a conclusion. Therefore, they default to rapid, simplistic, and absolute verdicts. They must conclude quickly because they lack the depth to see nuance.

Conversely, a truly knowledgeable person judges slowly, deeply, and without final absolutism. They know that complexity always defeats simplicity. If your judgment is rapid and definitive, it is a clear measure of your lack of knowledge on the subject.

Law 2: Projection is Self-Exposure

When you criticize someone else, your judgment can only be formulated according to your own nature, your own thoughts, and your own history.

You cannot cast a value onto a person that you do not already possess within your frame of reference. The flaws you notice most vehemently in others are often the shadow qualities or unprocessed weaknesses that your Ego most needs to deny in yourself.

You are seeing the world through your own subjective, flawed lens. That judgment is not a commentary on their character; it is a live broadcast of your own psychological limits and hidden faults.

The Conclusion: The Ultimate Warning

The moment you fall into the trap of supposing that your criticism elevates you above the target is the exact moment you fall into judgment, revealing your shallow thinking for all to see.

Want to know the fastest, most effective way to understand what a person truly values, fears, or lacks? Just listen to their judgments about others.

Book The Law of God - Pietro Ubaldi "Each one judges with the elements he possesses. The more we are ignorant, the less we possess, and the fewer elements we possess, the more rapid and absolute our conclusions.

On the contrary, those who have more knowledge and, therefore, more elements to judge, do not arrive at simplistic, rapid and absolute conclusions. Therefore, the one closest to the truth is the one who judges slowly, without absolutism, but with depth.

Then whoever judges, casting his judgment upon others, ultimately judges himself, and with his judgment, reveals himself. Because he can judge only according to his type of thought and nature, his thinking and nature are discovered with his judgment.

The best way to get to know a person is to observe their judgments about others. When one falls into the illusion of supposing that, judging others, he is thus uncovering them and putting himself above them, in reality, he is only submitting to judgment, discovering himself and showing his own faults."

Book The Law of God - Pietro Ubaldi